You Can Adopt!
Adoption has brought me great joy ... My youngest son, adopted internationally, never fails to amaze me. Where there was once emptiness, he brought tremendous joy. When I look back at all we have shared and how much he has grown in such a short time I am simply amazed. I can’t imagine life without him, and am so glad I took my “leap of faith” and started the adoption journey that brought us together, forever.
But I was very scared at first ... I must confess that I was tremendously scared to adopt a child. I was filled with doubt and uncertainty. There were so many unknowns ...
- Could I adopt a healthy child?
- Was I prepared to parent a child who might have emotional or physical challenges?
- What would I know about my child’s birthparents and medical history?
- How would people react to my new child?
I didn’t know anything about the process ... And even if I could overcome my fears, I didn’t know how to begin. I had so many questions about the process.
- Where do you start?
- How long does it take?
- What’s a “home study”?
- Should I adopt domestically or internationally?
- What about foster care?
- Am I too old?
- Can I afford to adopt?
And I wasn’t ready to “go public” ... And, since deciding to adopt was such a personal and private issue for me, I wondered how I could discretely get the information I needed without any pressure or judgment. I tried calling adoption agencies and signing up for classes in my area. In fact, I showed up at my first class only to be scared that I would meet someone I knew!
Yet I wanted to know all my options before I began ... Each agency I talked with was helpful, but really could only answer questions regarding services they offered, not necessarily the options that were right for me. With so many options, how could I pick an agency before I knew what path was right for me? While my heart was longing, the uncertainty was paralyzing.
I was lucky to find adoptive parents to help me ... If I had not been blessed to meet some real experts -- adoptive parents -- who shared their adoption stories and guided me on my adoption journey I might never have had the joy of holding my youngest son in my arms. I might still be feeling the emptiness and anxiety. Still be wondering “what if.” They gave me the information and inspiration I needed to take the “leap of faith” that brought my youngest to his forever family. And they did so because they wanted me to share in the joy they experienced. Because they wanted another child to find a home.
If you’re feeling like I felt, you are not alone ... While I didn’t know it then was that these fears and concerns are very common to those of us who are thinking of adopting. You are not alone. Yet I’m afraid that too many people think about adopting, but don’t get the information they need to make their dreams come true. That’s why I founded “Thinking of Adopting”. So you don’t have to go through what I did in making my decision to adopt. So you don’t have to leave finding “experts” to answer your questions to chance. So you don’t give up before ever really beginning.
We’ve been where you are. We can help ... At Thinking of Adopting we can help you learn more about adoption from the privacy of your own home. We are not an adoption agency, but real adoptive parents who can help you get personalized answers to your questions. If you are thinking about making your dreams come true and starting or growing your family, learn more about how we can help.
Robin Bartko
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